There are two ways of dealing with fear. One is passive and the other is active. When you are in passive mode you seek to avoid any situation that causes any anxiety. This could be things like putting off certain decisions in which you would hurt someone’s feelings. Or it could be opting for everything to be safe and for you to feel comfortable in your daily life so that no amount of messiness can enter. You feel this way because you feel that you are fragile and would be damaged or affected by anything you dread.
The other way people deal with fear is the active variety. Most of us have experienced this in our lives. It’s the situations that bring up the risky or difficult situations that we fear. Examples would be a natural disaster, the loss of someone close, losing a huge amount of fortune, a life-threatening situation, etc. In these situations, we have no choice but to deal with them. We fear them, but when we do come across them, we find the inner strength to overcome it and in the end we usually find it wasn’t so bad. And then what happens? After a while we forget about these situations, only to fear them once again. Crawling into our little shells and going back into the passive mode. A recurring event that results from our own human habits and fear.
Your Fears Are Nothing
If you take a look back in history, there are people who lived through much tighter situations. They were constantly confronted with dangers pressing them on a daily basis. Even in the present world, people live with confrontations that require them be in active mode and deal with their fears over and over again. Poverty, facing death on the battlefield, leading an army in war, being a leader in a time of crises, suffering from personal loss or tragedy, having a brush with death; all examples of what some people deal with daily.
Many people grow up with these circumstances and their spirit become crushed by their adversity. But, there are only a few who rise above. It’s their only choice to confront these fears on a daily basis and overcome them, or, submit to the consequences. The people who confront their adversities and choose to rise above are the ones that are toughened and hardened to the point of steel.
Although, understand that no one is born this way. It is unnatural to not feel fear. It is the process that requires challenges and tests. What separates those who go under and those who rise above adversity is the strength of their will and hunger to succeed.
At some point, when dealing with fears in this defensive position often, it will usually turn into an offensive one. If you are backed into a corner, you will not have any other choice but to “fight back.” In result of this, a fearless attitude is created. People who have a fearless attitude toward life learn the value of not only of being unafraid but also they approach life with a sense of boldness and urgency. They have unconventional approaches toward life and they become innovative and create new models rather than following old ones. They see great power in this and it usually becomes their dominant mindset.
Very few people acclaim this fearless approach toward life (80/20 Ratio). Some recognizable names include Napoleon Bonaparte, Malcolm X, Federick Douglas, among others.
The bottom line does not give in to your fears so easily. Whether it’s the fear of change, the fear of risk, or whatever it may be, face it head on in active mode and rise above it. Be a part of the few who do and live your life without fear and boundaries. Then, you’ll likely see paradox developing around you.
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